So, I am becoming more and more convinced that each personality type has at least one mental block. By this I mean that there’s something that it’s really, really difficult for you to understand simply because of how your brain works. It’s probably possible for you to overcome this, but it’s going to be a difficult road. And people might have more than one, but it seems to me that various types seem to have the same ones. At any rate, lets see.
- ESFJ: Being able to separate feelings from people. ESFJs are Fe dominant, which means that they would have a hard time making decisions based completely on logic, especially as regard other people. They’re not at all dumb; on the contrary, ESFJs are extremely people-smart. But this is a mind-block if you’re dealing with people who need logical rather than emotional support.
- ISFJ: Being unkind to others. ISFJs tend to be naturally kind and gracious people. Obviously, everyone has bad days, but to them, that’s not a great excuse for failing to be a sweet person, and while they are so sweet themselves that they’d probably not even be able to tell you what they think of you being such a jerk, they’re definitely going to have a hard time understanding it.
- ESTJ: Complaining with no solution. Why would you do this? ESTJs don’t know. And, frankly, I might have an ESTJ-ish streak in my INTP self, because I don’t always know why people do this, either.
- ISTJ: Not following instructions. It’s really hard for an ISTJ to figure out why someone would not do something the prescribed way, especially if the instructions are provided. There is a certain way to do things. Why would you deviate from that way? It doesn’t make sense.
- ENFJ: Distrusting people. Well, they do understand how people might not trust other people. But they do have a hard time understanding how someone could mistake their niceness for anything but exactly what it is on the surface. People aren’t used to someone friendly, outgoing, and ulterior motive-free, but the ENFJ generally has that sort of personality, and it’s a bit disappointing that not everyone can get that they really are the friendly people they seem to be.
- INFJ: Insensitivity. INFJs are pretty aware of everything that’s going on, and they don’t understand how some people can be such dunderheads as to blunder on through a situation leaving a trail of carnage behind them, so to speak. They have a hard time being nice to people who don’t seem to “get it.”
- ENTJ: Inefficiency. People ought to be able to do what they’re supposed to do without getting distracted. There is literally no excuse for not doing this. Unless maybe you break your leg. And even then, they might ask just how bad the break was. ENTJs really can’t see why people have to be so frustratingly slow to complete perfectly simple tasks. Procrastination is not something upon which they look with tolerance.
- INTJ: Not being able to grasp big concepts. INTJs have big brains and can get big thoughts easily. So, why can’t everyone else? This mental block makes it hard for them to have patience with people they deem less intelligent than themselves.
- ESFP: Arguing. ESFPs are natural peacemakers. They just want everyone to get along, and they can be genuinely concerned at the tendency of some of the types to argue, even in a fun way. They might try to calm people down, not always realizing that what looks like an heated debate is really just friendly banter in the eyes of the debaters.
- ISFP: The desire to control others. Why can’t people just leave everyone alone to live their own lives as they choose? ISFPs, with their auxiliary Se, have a strong desire to be individual, and it’s really hard for them to understand why others have such a hard time accepting them for who they are.
- ESTP: Alone time. Well, they can give people their space. But they have a really hard time getting just why some people need so much space. ESTPs don’t see why everyone doesn’t want to have just as good a time as they do. But if not, well, those boring people are just missing out.
- ISTP: Not taking the time to understand ideas. ISTPs want to know how a thing works. They aren’t always sure why someone would be okay with just using a system or tool without knowing the why of it.
- ENFP: Always being in a hurry. ENFPs love to stop and ponder the wonderful world around them. They love to pause and talk to people and are pretty much always wonderful and agreeable. It’s hard for them to understand how some people are always rushing around, but they probably aren’t going to berate you for it, even if they don’t necessarily agree that you should be in such a hurry.
- INFP: Separating fantasy from reality. It’s not that they don’t know that the real world exists. It’s just that they don’t understand how everyone else can have such a limited view of it. The problem is, half of this “big picture” is really filled in with a wild imagination. It’s cool, but it’s not necessarily accurate. This kind of mental block means that it’s easy for INFPs (and any NP type, really) to be a bit on the snobbish side about their broad perspective. Not cool.
- ENTP: No sense of humour. How are there people in the world who don’t get sarcasm? Obviously, they exist, but the ENTP mind doesn’t see a good reason for it. Of course, ENTPs are also surprisingly empathetic, so they might actually say this out loud. But you never can tell when an ENTP will be just a tad bit annoyed at a person for not being able to laugh at themselves.
- INTP: The need to chat. Some people enjoy talking about daily stuff, the weather, etc. INTPs don’t tend to be these people, and it’s very hard for them to understand just why folks want to talk. If it’s not about a subject of great interest to them, the INTP is generally more than happy to just remain silent.